My Personality

This is spooky true!!

As an INFP, your primary mode of living is focused internally, where you deal with things according to how you feel about them, or how they fit into your personal value system. Your secondary mode is external, where you take things in primarily via your intuition.

INFPs, more than other iNtuitive Feeling types, are focused on making the world a better place for people. Their primary goal is to find out their meaning in life. What is their purpose? How can they best serve humanity in their lives? They are idealists and perfectionists, who drive themselves hard in their quest for achieving the goals they have identified for themselves

INFPs are highly intuitive about people. They rely heavily on their intuitions to guide them, and use their discoveries to constantly search for value in life. They are on a continuous mission to find the truth and meaning underlying things. Every encounter and every piece of knowledge gained gets sifted through the INFP's value system, and is evaluated to see if it has any potential to help the INFP define or refine their own path in life. The goal at the end of the path is always the same - the INFP is driven to help people and make the world a better place.

Generally thoughtful and considerate, INFPs are good listeners and put people at ease. Although they may be reserved in expressing emotion, they have a very deep well of caring and are genuinely interested in understanding people. This sincerity is sensed by others, making the INFP a valued friend and confidante. An INFP can be quite warm with people he or she knows well.

INFPs do not like conflict, and go to great lengths to avoid it. If they must face it, they will always approach it from the perspective of their feelings. In conflict situations, INFPs place little importance on who is right and who is wrong. They focus on the way that the conflict makes them feel, and indeed don't really care whether or not they're right. They don't want to feel badly. This trait sometimes makes them appear irrational and illogical in conflict situations. On the other hand, INFPs make very good mediators, and are typically good at solving other people's conflicts, because they intuitively understand people's perspectives and feelings, and genuinely want to help them.

INFPs are flexible and laid-back, until one of their values is violated. In the face of their value system being threatened, INFPs can become aggressive defenders, fighting passionately for their cause. When an INFP has adopted a project or job which they're interested in, it usually becomes a "cause" for them. Although they are not detail-oriented individuals, they will cover every possible detail with determination and vigor when working for their "cause".

When it comes to the mundane details of life maintenance, INFPs are typically completely unaware of such things. They might go for long periods without noticing a stain on the carpet, but carefully and meticulously brush a speck of dust off of their project booklet.

INFPs do not like to deal with hard facts and logic. Their focus on their feelings and the Human Condition makes it difficult for them to deal with impersonal judgment. They don't understand or believe in the validity of impersonal judgment, which makes them naturally rather ineffective at using it. Most INFPs will avoid impersonal analysis, although some have developed this ability and are able to be quite logical. Under stress, it's not uncommon for INFPs to mis-use hard logic in the heat of anger, throwing out fact after (often inaccurate) fact in an emotional outburst.

INFPs have very high standards and are perfectionists. Consequently, they are usually hard on themselves, and don't give themselves enough credit. INFPs may have problems working on a project in a group, because their standards are likely to be higher than other members' of the group. In group situations, they may have a "control" problem. The INFP needs to work on balancing their high ideals with the requirements of every day living. Without resolving this conflict, they will never be happy with themselves, and they may become confused and paralyzed about what to do with their lives.

INFPs are usually talented writers. They may be awkard and uncomfortable with expressing themselves verbally, but have a wonderful ability to define and express what they're feeling on paper. INFPs also appear frequently in social service professions, such as counselling or teaching. They are at their best in situations where they're working towards the public good, and in which they don't need to use hard logic.

INFPs who function in their well-developed sides can accomplish great and wonderful things, which they will rarely give themselves credit for. Some of the great, humanistic catalysts in the world have been INFPs.

INFPs present a calm, pleasant face to the world. They appear to be tranquil and peaceful to others, with simple desires. In fact, the INFP internally feels his or her life intensely. In the relationship arena, this causes them to have a very deep capacity for love and caring which is not frequently found with such intensity in the other types. The INFP does not devote their intense feelings towards just anyone, and are relatively reserved about expressing their inner-most feelings. They reserve their deepest love and caring for a select few who are closest to them. INFPs are generally laid-back, supportive and nurturing in their close relationships. With Introverted Feeling dominating their personality, they're very sensitive and in-tune with people's feelings, and feel genuine concern and caring for others. Slow to trust others and cautious in the beginning of a relationship, an INFP will be fiercely loyal once they are committed. With their strong inner core of values, they are intense individuals who value depth and authenticity in their relationships, and hold those who understand and accept the INFP's perspectives in especially high regard. INFPs are usually adaptable and congenial, unless one of their ruling principles has been violated, in which case they stop adapting and become staunch defenders of their values. They will be uncharacteristically harsh and rigid in such a situation.


INFP Strengths

● Warmly concerned and caring towards others

● Sensitive and perceptive about what others are feeling

● Loyal and committed - they want lifelong relationships

● Deep capacity for love and caring

● Driven to meet other's needs

● Strive for "win-win" situations

● Nurturing, supportive and encouraging

● Likely to recognize and appreciate other's need for space

● Able to express themselves well

● Flexible and diverse


INFP Weaknesses

● May tend to be shy and reserved

● Don't like to have their "space" invaded

● Extreme dislike of conflict

● Extreme dislike of criticism

● Strong need to receive praise and positive affirmation

● May react very emotionally to stressful situations

● Have difficulty leaving a bad relationship

● Have difficulty scolding or punishing others

● Tend to be reserved about expressing their feelings

● Perfectionist tendencies may cause them to not give themselves enough credit

● Tendency to blame themselves for problems, and hold everything on their own shoulders




My little feet left footprints
on Tuesday, April 28, 2009; 2:40 AM
klematis



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A haiku

Sunset peeking through
Undulating hills and trees
What a masterpiece.

Her hand snug in mine
Scene symbolizing divine
Promises of Thine.



My little feet left footprints
on Saturday, April 18, 2009; 11:21 PM
klematis



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Of Buses And Children

It's true. What I read off a friend's blog about letting a child take you for a walk from time to time is true. Today I just had the chance to do something like that. And for that good thirty minutes, the time seemed to tick much slower;life seemed to move to a much slower cadence.

I was just going out from my office to the nearby 'mama' shop to get a simple item. Then as I walked on my way in those familiar grounds of SAV, I saw a familiar silhouette in the distance. It was Clifton and his really young daughter Naomi that I saw first, and knew immediately Noah must have been somewhere around.

Noah is this really adorable two year old boy that everybody loves in Chapel of The Resurrection. But then again, what's not to love about someone like him? He has been so consistently adorable since he was a baby, and it just keeps getting better. Of course, Noah's a big boy now and doesn't like to be cuddled and carried so much by strangers or in the presence of strangers, but you could still hold his hand if you have somewhere interesting to take him to. =) And hold his hand was just what I did after I had a short conversation with Little Curious Noah. It went something like this:
Noah (running up to meet me as I walked towards him) : Where you come from?
Me: (stooping down to his eye level): Hi Noah, I came from the office where I was working. (see you need to speak to them as though they were adults, perfectly able to understand what you were saying. Complete sentences help them make sense of how language ought to be used. Hee.)
Noah: Is it you came from church there?
Me: Yes I came from church. =)
Noah: Is children's church starting yet?
Me: No it hasn't started, what time is it now? (looks at watch) It's only three. What time does children's church start?
Noah: 9 o'clock! -_-" (anyhow bom want lor)
Me: No it starts at 4 o'clock right? Are you excited? (then I briefly thought he might not know such a big word)
Noah: No I not excited. (I was right)
Me: Oh? You're gonna have fun right? (he nods) I'm gonna have to go buy something. You wanna come along with me? (talks to Clifton) can he come along? (Clifton said it's up to him wor)
Noah: Then after that we come back to Daddy right? (so sweet!)
Me: Yes we'll come back to Daddy
Clifton: Hold UNCLE Vincent's hand ok? (sigh, gotta admit I'm getting old)

And so we went to get the item. His hand felt so tiny in my own bear paws.

Noah: What are you buying?
Me: I'm gonna get a nail clipper, you know what it's for? It's to clip your nails right? Noah clips his nails too right?
Noah (distracted by the stage play at the school hall): what's that? (they were screening star wars sequence of some sort)
Me: They're doing some sort of play. See? Big T.V.
Noah: Can we go in to see?
Me: (apologetically) They're busy inside so we can't go in. But I can carry you and you can see better. Can I carry you? (he lifts up his hands to indicate consent)

We go closer to the windows of the shutter doors to see better. His curiosity satisfied, we move on. At the flight of stairs, I decided to let him walk on his own but to hold his hand. He is after all a big boy now. He slipped once, but my hand held fast. We walk past the security guard post and the friendly Indian lady is there. She sees the both of us and waves. I say hi and she asks if we're going for lunch. No, we're going to get nail clippers, I reply. Noah says hi and bye too. Noah is fascinated with the new term 'Nail Clippers' he hardly can pronounce properly. To him it's Nail cwippers. He asks why I have to get one. I told him I don't have one. He says he has one at home. Next time I can get from him.
Me: Oh really? That's very nice of you. Noah is a nice boy.
Noah: I can give to you then you give back to me. -_-"
Me: (correcting his vocab) Oh you mean you're gonna lend it to me and then I give it back right?
Noah: Yes.

We cross the road.

Me: Noah we're gonna cross the road now. I'm gonna have to carry you. (He raises his hand and says ok)
Me: See when you cross the road you're gonna have to look left and right. Is there any cars? (Noah looks over my shoulder and quips 'No car') Then can we cross? (He replies promptly 'Yes'.)

We do this at least four times without missing a single step. By the fourth time he voluntarily asks, 'Can we cross?' He learns fast. I'm quite sure he'll ask Clifton or Ruth that the next time they cross a road together.

We pass by a drink shop. Noah asks 'Are you thirsty?' to which I reply that I'm not. He replies he isn't as well to me. We then pass by some durians and I ask him, Noah what's this? Without hesitation he says, 'Papaya!' I tell him it isn't and that it's a durian. Look, it's so sharp. Painful right? He says ouch in typical Noah fashion. The next time we pass by it he doesn't want to touch it anymore. But he still calls it a papaya.

We get to the shop. He sees a litter pincer and asks what is this. I ask him back. He ventures an answer.
Noah: It's to hang clothes!
Me: Oh ok. Try pressing it. It opens and closes! Can it clip my nails?

He doesn't even try. No! He says. Let's look for it then. He sees a wooden massaging beater. He's really curious about this one. What is this? I've learned never to tell them. They'll only ask even more. Ask them back and they're satisfied venturing an imaginative answer. I ask him back can it clips nails and offer him my fingers to try. He tries and it doesn't work. We move on. We see a rattan cane and he exclaims 'Umbrella!' -_-" I used the opportunity to introduce the concept of Discipline to him, a concept his mom taught him since young. He takes up another massage beater and this time when prompted he says it's a 'drum stick!' We finally find the nail clipper and he wants one too. I reminded him he has one at home already, and promised I'll get it from him next time and he can borrow mine if we ever need one. Friendship concepts start early man.

We make our way back and cross roads in typical Noah fashion. Anything you teach him becomes his. We spot one taxi and we talk about taxis. He doesn't like taking taxis cos he prefers taking the bus. I ask him why and he adamantly says he just likes it. If he tells that to a certain someone who blogged about buses, I'm sure he find some strong agreement and theories about watching the bus 'push trees'. =) We sing the song 'the wheels on the bus go round and round.' I end with the words 'all through the town' and get corrected. It should be all through the church he says. Amazing!

It's just such a blessing to enjoy such a time when just a few hours ago the weight of the world seemed to weigh on your shoulders what with LifeConcert over and there being a need to do follow up and all that. God knows of our needs. So much to learn from being with kids about slowing down and seeing things in a simpler fashion. They are never worried especially those who are well taken care of. And they approach all things with the same curiosity and wonder.

Yawn. I still owe a proper post on Vietnam, and why I prefer buses. Coming soon, if life permits.

Maybe I'll do a one year memorial on it or something.



My little feet left footprints
on Sunday, April 5, 2009; 1:07 AM
klematis



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